Our spouse needs to hear the words of love. They need to know we value them and we bless them when we use words of affection and value. But we need to hear ourselves say them as well. When we speak these words, they imprint themselves on our brains and our hearts. The words serve as reminders of who this person is and who we are as well. We are forgetful creatures and we need the reminder.
I think this is a problem not just in marriages, but in other relationships as well. Parents and children need to talk about love with each other. They each need to say words of love to each other, and they need to hear themselves say them to the other.
We need to talk about our love for God. We need the reminder of how important He is to us. We need to remind ourselves that we do love Him.
The fact of the matter is that those who truly love can’t stop talking about it.